Monday, September 06, 2004
effeminacy
effeminate (adj) (of a man) displaying characteristics thought to be typical of a woman.think jarvis cocker. john malkovich. johnny depp. adrian pang. michael and russell wong.
yeah, they're not typically "girly" but i like to relate effiminacy as a form of new feminine masculinity. soft spoken and calm yet oozing manly protectiveness. isn't it amazing how personality wins over physical appeal? (i'm sorry i hate chunky bods they freak me out). i've always been very attracted to effeminate intelligent homosapiens (i love my women too). the gentle resolve and determination, controlled yet manipulative if need be. aahh...that's the ultimate gentleman ain't he? after all, the term "gentle man" had to originate from somewhere right?
the evolution of the new singaporean man. i see more of them learning to love and respect their women. and best of all, they believe in doing their part in making a relationship/ marriage work. i've seen some husband friends who help out with the laundry and burping their little bundle of joy. it puts a smile on my face knowing the new generation of men see relationship building as a two-prong approach instead of the traditional man (read: no washing of women's underwear cos it's bad luck. no doing of housework cos its not a man's job yadda yadda).
growing up under a strict household made me more determined to break free. imagine having a 7pm curfew when you were 18. no dating till mid 20s (cos boys are horrid distractions and a modern woman's priority should be getting the frigging degree and not the man). and no dating shoddy men who aint got the personality to manage or look after you (no contest against that one).
this made me believe in bringing up a child differently should i have my own. strict is good. i always admired discipline in anyone. but i would love to see my child growing up in an open and comfortable environment where i'll be seen as his/her friend rather than a governing parent. after all, shouldn't parenting be bout growing up together?
i've asked some of my friends on their reactions should their kid turn gay. what would you do if your 4 year old son asked for a barbie for xmas? would you buy him that cos you believe your son deserves what he likes? or would you do the despicable by buying him a he-man "macho macho like" figurine hoping to dispel any early signs of effeminacy? most answered the latter. i think i'll buy my son a barbie should he ask for one. why not? gay or not is not my main concern. health and wealth is. what feeds power drives priorities. sides, the thought of being mommy to the next jimmy choo sounds mighty thrilling.
bee wrote this at 7:08 PM
