Friday, February 18, 2005
what's love got to do with it?
haven't you ever met some people in your lifetime whom you felt an instant connection to? and there are some who strangely just makes you wanna slap them across the head for no good reason. strangely enough, the reason why i worked so well with my ex GAD was probably cos we seem to share similar views towards working styles, relationships, love and marriage. what's love defined and can it ever be? how can something that feels so right be wrong? or vice versa, how can something so wrong feel so right? is this where rationalising and reality comes in? on what circumstances does one define marriage? one with respect? one for status? one for convenience cos you don't wanna forgo the downpayment? one for obligation? one for weakness cos you can't afford to be single? does anyone really marry for love now? i'm pretty sure there're a handful and darn, i'm so fucking envious of them.what's wrong being single? the girls told me last night that the japanese society would rather be divorced than be single. apparently married without luck folks are more respected in society than those who've never taken that step. what's wrong with this society where people place timelines and judgement on such titles? if it ain't bother me, why the fuck should it bother you? does being a divorcee make me perform better at my work, make me richer (yes in some cases), make me a better person (more cynical maybe)? i'm not dissing all divorcees, in fact i have alot of respect for single parents. but really, why do you plan to get married to get divorced? i'm sorry but it really doesn't make any sense.
you can marry for all selfish reasons (money, status, family) but don't do it
because you have to
because you're afraid people will talk about you having a personality problem
because people will lose respect for singles over 40.
don't.
cos doing it will make you lose any form of respect and dignity you've been holding onto for all your 40 years. don't make you hate yourself. cos if there's anything in this world that cuts deep, it's not knowing what you are anymore.
bee wrote this at 9:03 AM
