Saturday, April 16, 2005
the one where she reflects in solemn
Relationships.It s been a long time since she s thought much of it. Isn t it strange how all of us put on a cheerful facade when there are days where we re really feeling like a truck has just rammed through us? Relationships are scary, yes. because taking these unknown steps would affect our future decisions, point us in totally unexpected directions and in some extreme cases, change our destiny.
What is it about relationships that can make two or more people suffer so many unseen unhappy consequences? If we are so happy as friends and doing the casual dates, why should the next step be so traumatic (for some)? Do we always screw things up on our own accord because some of us are just not born generous givers, or some of us deserve karma retribution as a humility lesson? or perhaps we are mere puppets of social surroundings where we have to behave and progress in a certain way that s acceptable to all? Is cohabiting such a terrible sin? Are affairs sending us straight to hell? Or perhaps we all have different definitions of love?
Love defined (from dictionary.reference.com) can mean many things to different people:
1. A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection toward a person, arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness
2. A feeling of intense desire and attraction; the emotion of sex and romance
3. Sexual passion, intercourse, a love affair
4. An intense emotional attachment
so maybe it s definitions and expectations that s ruining everything.
Relationships are strange, but fate is even stranger. It seems to possess an evil knack for karma. Good man meets manipulative insecure woman. Good woman meets confused selfish man. Why do most good halves always end up with crappy others? Through some ill twist of fate, we sometimes find ourselves thrown in sticky situations where we are forced with moral and ethical decisions to choose between our happiness or doing what s right. Prince charles and camila parker bowles have waited this long to be together. Can we not give them a break and leave them be? Is camila not accepted because she s not royalty, or because she was the mistress? But didn t she meet the prince first? Weren t they in love already? Who are we to judge what s right and wrong? Are YOU perfect? How would you feel if you left the love of your life under circumstantial situations and societal pressure? Perhaps the bridges of Madison county is an apt example.
How long would you wait to be with the one you love? The Chinese have a saying you yuen wu fen or Cantonese yao yun mou fun (fate to meet but not to be together)…how true, cos we don t always get want we really want. What if that love never turns up? Not just anyone but that someone who brings out the sparkle in you, someone who makes you smile despite the tough day, someone to hold you when you re down? Or would you take the safe road out and settle for someone great. Not awesome but just great.
Would you?
She would. Cos the idea of waking up alone at fifty and sitting in the balcony with her cuppa remembering her lost opportunities twenty years ago scares her so bad she would not mind spending a lifetime with someone who loves her more than she does him. Why don t we ever listen to our mothers?
bee wrote this at 1:37 AM
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At 11:00 PM,
Unknown said...
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"remembering her lost opportunities twenty years ago scares her so bad she would not mind spending a lifetime with someone who loves her more than she does him."
This sentence really cut me deep.
I loved that much once. She said she loved me but she married another man because she 'couldn't disappoint her parents anymore'.
That hurt.
Love doesn't mean a thing.
Not one goddamn thing.
bee said...
tricorn: yes, love doesn't mean a damn thing and some of us are very very lucky to find true and "honest" love still in this day and age.
melancholy girl: thanks!
Unknown said...
Aye, lucky me. >_<
Back to what's dependable!
Me.
Boy oh boy, it's sure going to be lonely around here from now on!
