Wednesday, July 13, 2005
expired love
Relationships sure are daunting.Was telling a girlfriend over lunch how sad it was to see relationships turn sour, and I mean, so bad that you might consider seeing that person diminish this very second from earth. Doesn’t it break one’s heart when you look back and remember how you first met X? the twinkle in his eye, the way he combs through his hair, mishaps on the first date, first kisses, the passion, the proposal, the day he slipped the ring on your finger…
Did one of us change?
Or maybe both of us did. As we age, our mindworks shift. Sometimes in tandem, sometimes not. For some couples, it drifts further when no one steps up to make the first move. Or maybe they’re afraid. Cos talking and bringing things to the table would mean trouble and it’s an easier way out skirting issues and hiding the unhappiness behind the Sunday papers and kids classes (asian thing?) the bitter sweetness, the cynicism and the brutal words, at times, the threats and worse yet, crimes of passion. What in fucking hell happened along the way?
Relationships need a lot work. it’s like baking…not that I do that a lot but its therapeutic likewise doing the dishes. A cake made from scratch requires more effort, sweat and time but you appreciate the experience and form much more after its completion. A cake made from ready-to-go recipes requires less effort and time and you wouldn’t really give it as much thought. After all, you didn’t put in your sweat and blood, someone can toss it over for all your care. Is that what marriage is to some? Marry, don’t like, whatever, divorce. Meet someone again, marry, nah, divorce. At the end of the day, what exactly is a relationship to you?
How do you want it to be?
bee wrote this at 2:55 PM
