Wednesday, September 14, 2005
growing old together
the interesting lunch with ex boss yesterday was inspiring. married with three kids, juggling family, career and finances, how do you keep the relationship going? where do you find the time for it?his answer was simple.
no matter how busy husband and wife were, they always made it a point to keep at least a day a week for that alone time. its nothing much, perhaps even ridiculous to some sticky female species. but i like that thought. in this day and age, it's so easy to just lose yourself in the "now", in everything around you. work dilemmas, mindless leisure, money worries, political struggles, family crisis, troubled friends, ugly tragedies and what nots. at the end of the day, these relentless dramas are never ending. do you race with it till you're 60?
the point of having someone in your life is to help pull you back into form so that you don't lose yourself. but should you prefer to immerse yourself in the mind numbling world, who do you eventually reach out to when it all ends?
or would you choose to embark on the brave single journey? one where you smile and laugh and say this is the best moment of your life when you are 60, sipping the finest red in your expensive city penthouse with no one by your side to share this success with? i watched my aunt worked her ass off for the past 30 years, never taking a break, never hanging loose with friends, never having a relationship, cos she didn't have the time and energy to deal with it (she works past 2am everyday, even on weekends). and i watched her lose it all to ill health and death. she was barely past 45 years of age.
living means something more to me.
bee wrote this at 1:16 PM
